During the 4.5 years that Dave and I have been dating, he almost broke up with me twice. The first time was when I started blogging and the second was when I went full-time blogging. Do you see a pattern here?
Blogging is not a 9-5 job and unless you have an “Instagram” boyfriend or husband who is onboard all the time with taking your pictures, being on Instastories 24 /7 and attending events, then it’s tough to balance work and life.
But this is not a blog post just for bloggers. Work/life balance is hard to do with any occupation especially if you’re a workaholic like I am. Everything is so competitive these days and people are spending more time at the office, on their laptops and definitely on their phones.
Here are a few of the things I have adopted that I think have made my relationship better and added balance to my overall life!
Put the Phone Down
This is something for me and I imagine for all bloggers that is tough. I basically work and live on my phone and I know a lot of other occupations that is the case too. But Dave is a teacher. He works from 9-5 and could care less about any social media. And while I’m basically addicted to my phone at this point I have made a huge effort to put it down at night and when we’re out eating in a restaurant. I’ll do what’s most important on my phone, answer emails or respond to DM’s, and then I put the phone down and spend time with Dave and Violet. The world is not going to end if I don’t look at my phone for a couple of hours, but my relationship might so put the phone down people!
If you watch my Instastories, you know that Dave and I watch a lot of documentaries. I’m obsessed with them! But Dave also loves watching Vlogs. Poker vlogs, a vlog about a guy who flys around on a winged contraption that he made and a vlog about a guy who goes to Disneyland almost every day and tells you about it. I hate those and while sometimes I want to go upstairs and watch something else like the Golden Girls, the best show ever, I stay. I watch them because I know he likes them and because how many things has he watched, Real House Wives of “everywhere,” that I love or how many times has he left the couch during football Sunday to take a “quick” pic of me? A lot. Relationships are not one-sided and they should never be. I think bloggers especially sometimes forget that because we are in the public eye so much.
Being home with someone on a Saturday night is not the same as having a real date night. Occasionally it’s fun to just vedge out on the couch with your love, but there’s something about getting all dolled up for your boo that shows him that you really do care. That was a big thing for Dave and he had to remind me of it. I was so tired from getting ready for photo shoots and events that I didn’t really care about putting on makeup or doing my hair. But Dave is exactly the person I should be getting ready for and not care so much about how I look in front of other bloggers. We have really made an effort to go out once a week instead of staying home and getting takeout and you know what? It’s fun and even if I’m super tired I know it beneficial to our relationship.
These tips are nothing new and I’m by no means perfect and either is my relationship. But reminding ourselves sometimes to work less and work on ourselves and our relationships more is a good thing!
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