Valentine’s Day is always about love and usually, it revolves showing love for someone else. While I applaud that, I don’t think we should forget to love ourselves too.
When I had a “big birthday” two years ago, I’ll never tell just how big it was, I did a boudoir shoot. When I first got to the shoot the photographer had me write down what I loved about myself on a piece of paper. This was really hard for me. At first, I thought I’ll write down “my eyes.” But then I thought, I’ll sound conceded if I say that. And I just sat there. Almost two years later and I still think about that and wonder why it’s so hard to say out loud what you love about yourself.
I know I’m not alone. Most women would never announce, “I LOVE…” about themselves because they would feel selfish or be embarrassed or even have nothing to love about themselves. It’s so easy to ask, “Do I look fat?” but hard to say, “I love my body.” It’s sad and unfortunately how our society operates.
Ladies lets stop all the nonsense and love us as well as love and support other women! It’s not selfish or conceded. It’s healthy and something we should all practice on a daily basis. Here are a few tips to remember when practicing self-love. Happy Valentine’s Day!!!
1: Take Time For Yourself
This is a tough one for some women especially if they’re moms. And I totally get it! While I don’t have kids, I understand that doing something for yourself when the kids have school, sports and everything else seems selfish, but guess what? Doing something for yourself will make you happier, less stressed and as a result maybe, a better mom. Not that you’re not already a kick-ass mom! So, ladies schedule a massage, sign up for your favorite workout class or take a bubble bath and just do you!
2: Get Rid of All the Negativity
This is another one that’s sometimes tough, but very important to loving yourself. Whether it’s a toxic work environment, I’ve had my share of them, or a toxic relationship, CUT IT OUT! I can think of two times in my life where I had to cut out negativity. The first one was someone who I thought was a friend. Every time I was with her, she criticized how I looked or guys I dated. I didn’t feel good about myself when I was with her, so I ended the relationship. Another time was a job. If you’re crying every other week at a job, it’s probably toxic. That’s exactly what was happening, so I decided to leave. And guess what? I’m happier and have never regretted either decision for a second. So, ladies, look at your life and Make Some Cuts!
3: Surround Yourself with People Whole Support You
When you are happy and successful, you’ll find that some people around you can’t handle it. Call it jealousy or insecurity, but some people will either be negative or just stop talking to you entirely. With that said, move on and surround yourself with people who love and want to support you. When I started blogging full-time some people who were my friends at the time stopped talking to me. I’m not sure why or that I even need a reason. That’s their own issue and while it makes me sad, I’d rather surround myself with women who want to support me and be happy with my successes. The SoCal Blogger Babes have been an amazing support group and because of it, I’ve thrived not only in my “Blog Life,” but also in my personal life. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you feel confident and secure and have the support of other women.
I’m by no means an expert on self-love and I certainly have my own work to do in that department and will continue to work on it throughout my life. But when you’re happy and love yourself you’ll find that everything else will prosper. So give yourself a hug and look in the mirror and tell yourself YOU ARE AWESOME!
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Photography by: Emily McGahee Photography